The Ponderer

Regular Flirting Brings Magic Into Marriage

February 9, 2011
Photo of Mark and I at Christmas
Photo of Mark and I at Christmas

Photo of Mark and I at Christmas

My husband and I used to point to couples in restaurants and guess whether they were married or dating, and if married, for how long. We would base our guesses on how much they were talking to each other, whether they were smiling, flirting, and touching. When we’d see a couple not talking, or worse, each reading their own books or doing their own thing, we’d know right away… MARRIED!

We swore we’d never be that couple. But alas…

And now, of course, I get it (or am I only justifying it?). After being married for awhile, there is no more pretense and there is comfort in silence. Sometimes it’s nice to not have to talk.

Recently we were at a restaurant and a very, very, very old couple was at a table across from us.  They never spoke a word to each other until they got up to leave.  He helped her with her coat, and they both hobbled away from the table in walkers.  It was so, so sweet.  And I actually hoped that one day, that would be us.  I mean, after being married for some 60 years as they likely were, what do you have left to talk about?  I’m okay with that.

Flirting… touching… I hope we never give that up.  If those things stop, what fun is it anymore?  Most people don’t associate flirting with marriage – they reserve that for dating.  Well guess what?  Your honey would still LOVE to be wooed.  Men are hunters… give him something to chase…


If flirting with your spouse isn’t part of your relationship – FLIRT with your honey THIS WEEK. See what happens… regular flirting will bring magic into your marriage.  Promise.

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  • Reply Allison Brown February 9, 2011 at 9:35 PM

    Love it! Great timing too since VDay is right around the corner. Great inspiration to keep romance alive since flirting never gets old. I used to pretty good at it. I need to brush up on my skills, lol.
    Thanks for the inspiration :)


    angela Reply:

    @Allison Brown,
    Hi Alli! Thanks for commenting!

    Girl, I’m sure you could be the Queen Flirt and we could all take lessons from you -- I remember you being so fun-loving.


  • Reply Jessica February 10, 2011 at 4:18 AM

    I love this and need this reminder. I’m not sure when the last time my husband and I flirted was. We are going on an actual date tomorrow so I will pull out some of my old moves ;)



    angela Reply:

    Thanks for visiting, Jessica! And now I know your name :-) If you’re rusty on the flirting thing, give yourself patience, you’ll find your groove again. Happy dating to you.


  • Reply Gretchen March 2, 2011 at 9:49 PM

    Somehow I missed this when you first posted it. Let me say that I *love* it! Mike and I will be having our 16th anniversary next month, and we still sometimes act like teenagers together. It definitely keeps it fun!


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